Dating a man with teen children
You don't want to get involved with a man who has negative feelings about children.All men will have some reaction that may seem a bit odd, but that is not the same as having them say they hate rugrats and would never have them in their home.“I know it’s against your nature,” she said,”but when it comes to his kids, be a cat, not a dog. (Beth Reno)David’s daughters are sweet and smart, loving and funny and generous and affectionate … I tried to relax, think of the stretch of time ahead of us, remind myself there’s no rush.You’re going to want to hug them and bond with them, but it’ll be better if you relax and hang back. I had already fallen in love with their father, so what would I do if they didn’t like me? “He’s a director,” I told my friend L., absently fiddling with the lighter in my hand. Because my own parents are divorced, I know what it’s like when Dad has a girlfriend.Dating someone who has a child from a previous marriage introduces many complicated issues.Get your relationship off to a good start by considering these common scenarios. Is it OK to meet him now or should I wait until I have a better feel for the potential of this relationship before making introductions? Most experts agree that you should wait until your relationship shows signs of becoming serious before making introductions.
I would strongly advise not to get involved with the children unless you and this guy are serious.If this continues to happen, the child will be hurt as well as the father.Time for intimacy may be replaced by time spent together with the children. Remember: in actuality you’re dating the entire family, not just the guy.You may consider bringing the child a small gift to show your good will and sincere interest in him, such as baseball cards for a collector or new crayons for an aspiring artist.Don’t bring anything extravagant, which he may perceive as an effort to buy his affection.